Like many people, I’ve been writing down my new year’s resolutions for years. I’m a big organizer – I love to plan – and I love to write things down. I also love to dream big and set my goals as large as I possibly can.
In the past, whenever January rolls around, I would complete the ritual of writing down my new year’s resolutions and what I wanted to accomplish for the year. After that, I felt pretty satisfied and would close my notebook get on to the next task for the day.
Well, a couple of years ago we were moving and I was packing up the office. This was the perfect time to purge anything I no longer needed. As I was going through my bookshelf of things to purge, I came across a stack of old notebooks, all of them full to the brim with notes (I told you I liked to write stuff down).
I started reading through them and came across my resolutions for 2015: Lose 15 pounds, exercise more, and start my business. I threw that notebook away, didn’t read it anymore, and went to look through a new one…This one was from 2016 with eerily the same goals – lose 15 pounds, exercise more, and start my business. I found another notebook – this time it was 2017 – and yep, you guessed it, the same goals were there too.
Three years had gone by and I was still trying to achieve these same three goals. These goals were something I obviously wanted but clearly, I wasn’t accomplishing them. And I’ll be honest with you, I felt like I had wasted so much time when I could’ve achieved those goals a long time ago and had gone on to some new ones.
I realized that I needed a new plan if I wanted to make my habits stick for life. So that’s what I did. I created a new vision for accomplishing these goals once and for all. And then I got to work. Little by little I started achieving these goals by creating daily healthy habits. These daily habits were the game-changer.
So in today’s post, I’ll be walking you through what held me back from sticking to my own health goals in the past, in hopes that you can use them too. I would love to see you truly live your best life and do the things you want to do.
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HOW TO MAKE YOUR HEALTHY HABITS STICK FOR LIFE
01. Know what you’re working towards
To achieve your healthy habits, you need to know why you’re doing them in the first place. Why are you exercising daily? Is it to lose weight? Is it to feel better and have more energy? Write down the big goals you want to achieve and these will help form your daily healthy habits. Then, keep them in the back of your mind so that you know what you’re working towards. Don’t be like me and put those thoughts on a shelf only to rewrite them a year later.
02. Give yourself permission
It might seem silly, but when you’re ready to finally accomplish your healthy habits, you have to say “yes” to permitting yourself to go for it. We all have limiting beliefs about what we think we can or can’t do. These usually stem from experiences we’ve had in the past and our childhood. Don’t let those limiting beliefs hold you back. Say yes to your dreams and just get started.
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03. Divide big goals into mini-tasks
My biggest tip for you with achieving your healthy habits is to divide the big goals into smaller daily tasks. For example, if you want to lose weight, then it’s the smaller daily tasks like eating healthier, practicing self-care and moving your body that will get you there. If you need help figuring out how exactly you can do that, then check out my slim mama programwhere I walk you through how to eat healthier and lose weight naturally.
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04. Stop comparing yourself to someone else
We’ve all been there – we see someone else’s success and feel like we’ll never be able to do that. It leaves us feeling bummed out and like we’ll never achieve our goals.
But the truth is that we all have to start somewhere. This “successful” person has just shown you that it’s possible to achieve that goal – if they can do it, so can you. And we all have to start somewhere. So stop the comparison game, instead focus on your journey.
05. Let judgment and expectations go
We’re all human. You’re going to have good days and bad days. You’re going to feel like changing your habits is hard in the beginning. And you’ll probably feel like going back to your old ways more than once. All of these things are normal. But you want these goals for a reason, so don’t let the hard days or negative self-talk limit your growth.
06. Cross it off on a calendar
I love to see my progress and one of the best ways to do that is to write down my goals when I accomplish them. For example, I write down the days I work out at home on my calendar. It feels very satisfying to see them all together and helps to keep me motivated. And nothing beats crossing these healthy habits off my daily to-do list.
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07. Use a mentor to guide you
Having a mentor who’s already accomplished the goal you want to achieve can be helpful. For example, if you want to start exercising, then find a fitness coach online or in person at a local gym to help motivate you.
08. Celebrate the small wins
Life got so much better when I started focusing my energy on accomplishing the smaller tasks and celebrating them. My overall mood changed, I felt more satisfied with my success, and I was motivated to keep going.
I’ve also learned that focusing on the bigger goals tends to lead to overwhelm – how will I achieve it? It seems so daunting to accomplish this! – but the small daily tasks are something my brain can process and get done.
Celebrating the small wins doesn’t have to be big. Something as simple as a smile to yourself that you’re doing this new habit is sometimes all that you need.